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the empathy labyrinth





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the empathy labyrinth is a kinesthetic tool that guides you step by step through the process of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). You will gain greater clarity about your feelings and needs/values, connecting you to your heart, so that you can transform your world and the person you want to be.

the empathy labyrinth has been used around the world by individuals, community groups, schools, universities, colleges, faith-based communities, hospitals, families, prison inmates, and correctional and law enforcement employees.

the empathy labyrinth has been translated into Spanish, Hebrew, Arabic, Portuguese, Korean, German, Chinese and French.  


the empathy labyrinth combines Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Self-Empathy, Finger Heart Labyrinths, Inner Sacred Circles, Inner Council work and much much more.

As you go through the Empathy Labyrinth you will experience:

  • Your perceptions changing.

  • Your self-conversations changing.

  • Your heart and mind open to new and previously unthinkable possibilities of connection.

  • A personal, psychological & spiritual transformation.

  • clarity

  • compassion

  • empowerment

  • connection

  • You will be able to choose actions that are more connecting and congruent with your core needs/values. 

There are four versions of the empathy labyrinth to choose from:

  • indoor floor 











  •  jr. carpet w/ matching cards 

  • outdoor




  • in your heart









basic instructions: 

  1. Identify the situation in your life that you would like to work on.

  2. What’s your intention? (what are you hoping to accomplish?)

  3. Go around the EL identifying each of your Beloved Outer Jackals. (judgments, assumptions, & the like) “What you’re saying about the other.” Go around the EL identifying each of your Beloved Inner Jackals, (judgments, assumptions, & the like) “What you’re saying about yourself.”

  4. Observation:  “What did you see/hear (without an evaluation)?”

  5. Go around the EL identifying all of your feelings.

  6. Go around the EL identifying all of your unmet needs/values.

  7. Then narrow them down to about 5 needs/values. Now imagine each of your unmet needs/values being met. Take your time. Notice what you’re feeling in your heart. From this place of heart connection, would you like to make a request of yourself or the other to make life more wonderful?

  8. Try to imagine what the other person is feeling and needing.


Click here for the full empathy labyrinth worksheet.

Need help or want to experience this profoundly transformative process with an EL facilitator click here to contact us.



  • Definition of entity. 1a : being, existence especially : independent, separate, or self-contained existence. b : the existence of a thing as contrasted with its attributes. 2 : something that has separate and distinct existence and objective or conceptual reality.

  • We acknowledge and treat the thousands of individual entities that collectively make up who we are. in our work we acknowledge each individual entity and foster a empathic and compassionate relationship with them. when someone says they are sad or angry or depressed they might feel completely consumed by these emotions. In our work we say that it's just a part of you, an entity named sad or angry or depressed that is feeling that way. the rest of you is actually fine.   

  • we treat each feeling/need/thought/body part/spirit as it's own entity.


inner sacred circle:

when doing inner entity work we gather your entities in a circle in your heart and you give them empathy and work on whatever you want to.  this is a very powerful process.

inner councils:

the entities in your sacred circle can form an inner council that can give you strategies to help you resolve the situation you're working on.



Labyrinths are an ancient form that has fascinated people for millennia. A labyrinth is not a maze; a maze is designed to confuse you. A labyrinth lets you see where you are at all times and connects you to your heart. Similarly, empathy lets you see where you are all times and connects you to your heart as well. The empathy labyrinth combines both of these elements and makes for a deeply profound and meditative experience as you journey on your ultimate path, connection.

The EL is inspired by Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

what is nvc?

"Nonviolent Communication is based on the principle of Ahimsa — the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart." ~ Marshall Rosenberg, founder of NVC

Nonviolent Communication is a way of being in the world that has the purpose is to serve life and to create connection in such a way that everyone’s needs can be met through natural care. 

principles and purpose

When living in — and relating from — the consciousness of Nonviolent Communication, we embody the following attitudes:

Self-Connection: We relate to ourselves and the world from a still place within — a place of compassion, truth, clarity, and peace. To maintain self-connection, NVC proposes a daily process known as “Remembering.” Examples of Remembering practices include meditation, prayer, inspirational readings, poetry, inspirational music, and quiet time in nature.

Honest Expression: We express ourselves vulnerably and without criticism or blame. We reveal our feelings and needs and ask for what we want, without making demands.

Empathic Presence: We listen to others with a silent mind and an open heart. Our sole purpose in such listening is to connect with the speaker by understanding their meaning, feelings, and needs without judgment. We attempt to remain empathically present even when we are being targeted with criticism, blame, and other such forms of communication.


Self-Empathy: When we fail at empathic presence, becoming angry or otherwise unable to listen with an open heart, we give ourselves empathy. We take time out to vent our judgments in the privacy of our minds. We identify and connect with the unmet needs in a given interaction, and we mourn the pain of our unmet needs. This process enables reconnection with our essence — love and compassion. Once we experience an organic shift toward a calmer and clearer mind, we ask ourselves what we can do to fulfill the unmet needs in the situation.

We also use self-empathy to mourn and heal from disappointment or loss, to celebrate needs that have been met, or simply to understand ourselves more clearly and discern the next steps toward meeting our needs.

Means of Influence: We attempt to influence others by revealing our feelings and needs vulnerably and making requests, rather than through coercion. We want others to contribute to us out of natural giving, and never out of fear, guilt, shame, duty, desire for reward, or to buy love. Because we care about the needs of others as we do our own, we are committed to seeking solutions that can meet the needs of all involved.


Marshall Rosenberg conceived of NVC and developed a process, a roadmap, that enables us to enter that consciousness. When we are first learning NVC, the process teaches us the steps along the path to reach our destination — self-connection and connection with the other. Once there, we no longer need the roadmap to navigate. All we say and do will serve life. And when we step out of NVC consciousness, we can use the roadmap to find our way back.

There are five main elements to the process of Nonviolent Communication. When experiencing disconnection from others, we can use this list to see if all the elements are in alignment.

1. Consciousness: Am I self-connected? Am I expressing myself honestly and vulnerably? Am I listening empathically? Am I valuing the needs of others as my own? Am I committed to seeking solutions that can meet everyone’s needs?

2. Thought: Is there judgment or blame in my awareness? Am I angry or resentful in this moment as I engage with the other?

3. Language: Are my words free of criticism and blame?

4. Communication: Is my non-verbal communication — tone of voice and body language — congruent with my words?

5. Use of power: Do I want to overpower this person to get what I want? Is my request really a demand in disguise? Am I prepared to hear no, listen empathically, and maintain connection? Am I willing to stay in the dialogue until we find a solution that satisfies all involved?


The following are some concepts and principles that are fundamental to NVC.

Universal Human Needs: The concept of needs is the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication. Needs are the conditions human beings require in order to thrive. These include physical needs, such as water and air, as well as intangible ones, like respect, empathic understanding, freedom, meaning, and dignity. Because we consider them to be universal, expressing our own needs and acknowledging the needs of others enables us to create common ground by connecting at a deep place of the human experience. We believe that all our actions — anything anyone ever does — are attempts to meet needs. With this realization in mind, we are able to understand others’ actions, however baffling, and transform judgment into empathic understanding. In a safe environment, free of judgment and blame, it is easier to find solutions that can meet everyone’s needs.

Connection First: When conflict arises, we seek empathic connection before solutions. Connection is psychological contact — two people experiencing what is alive in each other simultaneously. We trust that in the space of heart connection we have access to a reservoir of creativity where we can find options that meet everyone’s needs. In the context of connection, disagreements can be resolved nonviolently.

The Need for Contribution: We believe that contributing to the well-being of others is one of the most powerful forces of human motivation. At times we disconnect from our need for contribution because we have been conditioned to think that our unmet needs are the other person’s fault — and blame fosters a desire for punishment. To restore our need for contribution, we can ask someone to listen to us with empathy, or we can engage in self-empathy to help us reconnect with our compassionate nature.

Interdependence: We believe that the well-being of all is a fundamental human need. We believe that human beings are interdependent, that we need one another to live and to thrive. What affects one affects all. We need others to build the houses we live in, grow the fruit and vegetables we eat, and sew the clothes we wear. We need carpenters, doctors, janitors, and teachers. Our environmental, health, and economic systems affect the global community in visible and invisible but important ways.

Value Judgments: NVC invites us to judge actions and situations by determining whether or not they are in harmony with our values, rather than making judgments. For instance, rather than saying “violence is wrong,” we might say “I value the resolution of conflicts through safe and peaceful means.” Nonviolent Communication posits that right/wrong judgments — thoughts and words of criticism and blame — are an important source of violence in families, societies, and the world. Judging people as “bad” or “wrong” leads to anger, and anger often leads to violence. Furthermore, judgments may prompt violence through a sense of justice—we feel justified in lashing out if we tell ourselves that the person deserves it. For instance, we may think “terrorists deserve to die.” Or more simply, we might say “I didn’t want to hit you, but you asked for it.”

The Protective Use of Force: When someone acts in a way that compromises safety, we use force as a means of protection but never as punishment. We do not cause suffering to teach someone a lesson. Instead of using retribution to reinstate social order, Nonviolent Communication proposes education and restoration.


Nonviolent Communication consciousness and the process to achieve it apply to three realms of life.

Personal: We employ the NVC process to liberate ourselves from cultural conditioning, to heal the wounds of life, to transform judgments into understanding of unmet needs, and to transform anger, guilt, shame, depression, and fear into life-serving emotions that increase inner peace and inner freedom. We identify and connect with our needs in order to build more satisfying relationships and more fulfilling lives.

Interpersonal: We relate to others with empathy, honesty, mutuality, and care, thus increasing trust, understanding, and cooperation in relationships. Empathy and vulnerable honesty are the essential elements of intimacy.

Societal: We live NVC principles and implement the process in our efforts to contribute to a better world. Our social justice work is fueled not by anger but by gratitude. Its principles are consistent with nonviolence as taught by Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr.

We believe that these realms are intertwined. Our state of mind and heart influences how we relate to others. How we relate to people can set in motion a chain of actions and reactions that impact society in unforeseen ways — for better or for worse.

NVC is consonant with the highest principles of the major world religions. In this way it embodies a form of universal wisdom.

This description of NVC was created by Myra Walden, Certified Trainer.

marc weiner

Marc was studying and practicing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for years when he developed the empathy labyrinth.  He works with people of all ages, all around the world. Marc has worked with religious groups, schools, universities, mental health facilities, police, incarcerated people and many more.

“Teaching empathy and NVC/Compassionate Communication skills gives me hope that children and adults can learn to take control of their thoughts, speech and actions to resolve differences more peacefully and joyfully."
Marc Weiner is also a comedian, puppeteer, actor and television producer. His TV and movie credits include appearances on Saturday Night Live,  HBO, Showtime, Comedy Central, his own show Nickelodeon “Weinerville, Dora The Explorer (TV) and Dora and the Lost City of Gold (Movie).

For more information on Marc Weiner 's entertainment career please visit

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